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Forming a Bridge between Reality and Expectations

 
The background was blue- blue sky; blue moon; blue stars and even the grass! It was blue. I walked up steadily trying to reach the cliff. I took in the faint whiff of moist earth and sodden grass and I reached the jutting cliff. I looked down at the backwaters between the chasm and felt a little dizzy and then looked up at the opposite side to another cliff jutting out. There was intense desire to jump and cross the chasm and reach the other side. The brightness and glitter put out beckoning hands and I jumped…. I woke up with a jump too, feeling frustrated, I didn’t know whether I fell or crossed the chasm successfully!
As individuals we have our own desires and expectations and to add to this is the expectations of others. As a race we human do try to be honest.  But we do have a strain of dishonesty which makes us put on masks. We are never truly honest even with ourselves and so these expectations are half formed blurry images which we shy away from focusing on. So what… then what?
Most great persons are of two kinds- either they are totally insular; they live in their own world and live life setting benchmarks and expecting people to kowtow to their laws and rules or they are totally social- they live in a world of other people where they carve and scrimp and adjust with the others, thinking of others and doing things for others. I am no great person – most of us are a bit of both we have our own personal desires and expectations, we inhabit both kind of worlds and we get along falling and rising.
This is all great as long as all the issues and problems involve us personally but what happens when it involves someone else? My desire cannot be fulfilled if someone else does not walk in tandem with me- then what do I do? DO I push the other person; kick him; prod him or show by example and what happens when none of these work? Do I take the easy way out and wallow in deep depression or be brave and ignore that something like that was never on my bulletin board or be a coward and ‘mask’ my emotions?
I have too many open-ended questions to satisfy even my own mediocre psyche so I dare not venture into other peoples domains! The horse was obviously thirsty so the rider took him to the pond but the horse refused to drink from it. The horse expected to be taken to a waterfall or to source of running water not to a stagnant pond hence he refused to drink! The rider of course thought that he had done a great job in realizing the horse’s need and taking him to the water source but was met with an ungrateful horse. Thus there was a chasm between the reality and expectation! Left to him the horse may have found what he desired but his owner was leading him with the bridle and he did not have the freedom to express his emotions.
The advantage that we have over the horse is that we can express ourselves but unlike the horse we live in a polite society and not only are we not honest, we put on masks and blindfold others and repeat statements like “All is well” to spread pseudo-happiness in the whole world.
There must have been many a time when we have fallen short of our expectations. Then why the big deal when someone else falls short? I will tell you why, it’s because you can play the blame game very easily it’s very difficult to blame yourself, you see! 
The whole solution to this lies in lunging over the chasm in a comfortable manner. One answer could be – do not have any expectations (Not sure if this is possible!) another could be, do not have any from others (Very difficult) still another is keep the expectations within limits (don’t ask for the moon when you can be happy with the torch light!)
The human heart is very troublesome- it is illogical, impractical and impassable. It is argumentative, augmentative and allegorical- unlike the mind. We thus have the eternal fight between the mind and the heart and “God save the heart” from the ruthless mind but maybe it’s time we buried the heart between the two cliffs of reality and expectation and make it the bridge to happiness…

Simple Pleasures

 
I squinted against the bright sunlight at the small black insects that were again attacking my beautiful yellow hibiscus. All the swear words had completed echoing in my mind and so to say, I was speechless at that moment in time. The gardener and I have been waging a war against these pests for the last four months. Every-time I write an epithet for these pesky pests and sit back contentedly, they conjure themselves up from thin air! We have used pesticides everywhere but they don’t seem to work and I have almost given up hope.
After about more than two decades I sat knitting in the sun. I remember the aunties sitting in the garden and knitting on a winter afternoon. I also remember me curling up my lips (mentally!) at them. How can you waste a lovely winter afternoon knitting? Isn’t it better to play or read a book or simply curl up under the quilt and dream? But college never gave us so much of free time- though we did laze around in the garden when we bunked a particular class. Sunday afternoon post lunch was dedicated to simple pleasures and winter afternoons meant I could go to the terrace and put a mat and sleep under the quilt; my face under it creating an artificial darkness and snooze. See the dichotomy of the whole exercise- I wanted the heat of the sun but not its light!
Here I loved the pictorial black dots on my yellow hibiscus but didn’t want the insects who give me so much of visual pleasure! But that’s reality. It is very possible that we like a person a lot but do not like his dress sense or food habits. The trick is in accepting the ore and extracting the gold!
I have this sudden creative urge and like jack of all trades I can’t decide what to do, I do everything. I have been experimenting with food (Those who don’t know me –I am supposed to hate cooking!); I have started a new painting; I am editing my ‘book’; knitting and now I am planning on stitching! Like jack I am “master of none’ either! In short I am experimenting with ‘simple pleasures’.
I am master of my time now. I can do whatever I want and when I want, for most of the days. This freedom sometimes makes me feel guilty that everyone is working so hard and I am doing things which give me pleasure. I have just discovered the happiness of simple pleasure. Very recently I woke up to the fact that I am not going to change the world; not because I cannot but because I will not, as the world has already changed me. The reasons and equations which used to fire me are no longer there to egg me on and also because I understand the reason and the conditions much better. I have turned my daily chores into pleasurable tasks!
A few months back, I used to feel frustrated that I cannot fast forward the thought process of many a young mind for “I had been there … done that …”but now I have left that phase far behind. The sea and the surf, the green water and the blue sky are incessantly doing their duty and like they have successfully changed me they will change them or turn them to the path made for them (No right or wrong here!) I find simple pleasures in their falling down and getting up strongly to follow their destiny.
These days I have been downloading my favourite old songs and singing when I am alone. Those of you who have not partaken of this simple pleasure do it soon. It gives you a kind of joy which you rarely get to touch these days. The low notes and the high notes trill your sensibilities to a kind of high which can give a good completion to the thrill of falling in love for the first time!
Today in the morning I felt both proud and old. Proud because my off spring touched the magic figure of twenty one and old because “Oh my God I am a parent to an adult!” but the pleasure outweighed the down and here I am musing on simple pleasures.
The sea clean and clear hits against the black rocks, never getting dirty. It cleans the rocks absorbs the sand and dirt and still remains clean. Again and again it repeats its motion, sound and force; never tiring; happy in its insular world of water, sand and rocks. I am like the man made concrete block put at the edge of the sea. I allow the sea to cut and file my edges to suit its mood. Should I have been like the sea which even when blockaded continues to chip away and shape its destiny like it desires to? Should I be as insular and focussed as the elements of nature? Will I then get more pleasures out of my simple pleasures?

I Protest


Al- Jazeera is at it again! The passionate voice of the latest celebrity announcer is rasping on my already irritated mind. Words like ‘anger’ and ‘frustration’ are thrown higgledy- piggledy around the screen. After every event an interview takes place with the “protesters” and we are served a potpourri of “human dignity, social justice and simple freedom”. Do these so called journalists even know what they are speaking about when they use these profound words?
Democracy is the new Shangri-La, everyone wants it! The extremely sad part is people equate democracy to total unconditional freedom. When will they ever realize that there is no such thing; there is no state of existence without any strings attached? This law of the universe is there for our own good. Just imagine- I feel I love the new car my neighbour has got so I just car-nap it and go for a ride without hesitation! Unconditional freedom can exist only when there is a world of non-ownership; once ownership comes into the picture then every right has a duty (We have done it when we studied political science!)
What then is the duty of the varied media channels? They feel they have the freedom to show what the “truth” is- here it is in quotes because their truth is not the reality we think we are seeing on the screen. Haven’t we all hear about how people are paid by these very torch bearers of truth to pretend to be injured and dead for the sake of the camera and the story to be illustrated at prime time? Do they even stop to think of the repercussions a bloody mutilated body can do to a young mind or for that matter an aged mind? I know that they know what havoc it can wrought in a mind but they choose to ignore it. Why? Because from the business point of view it is not right to be emotional! From the business point of view let us keep the heart and mind separate! It’s all about TRP ratings.
Once the profession of journalism was looked up at with reverence; it was never well paid but it was supposed to be noble; it was a profession which combined intelligence, ethical thoughts and truth with utmost honesty. Is it time we wrote an obituary to this facet of reporting? It is more about manipulative and coloured facts than ever before.
All that we hear echoing and rebounding is ‘the disappointment’ of the ‘protestors’; their ‘fulminating rage’; the inner hurt in the soul’. Why are these so called warriors so bloody hypocritical? Do we not know that existence in a comfortable way at the basic level is all about numbers and economics; isn’t it time we metaphorically behead these ‘poets’ and get down to the brass tracks of simple practical living; isn’t it time that we rubbed the sleep off our eyes and threw these servants of the devil out of Eden?
If you are interested in mythology and love reading the old classics then you would have noticed that a story cannot be created out of happiness. To have a great entertaining read you need a lot of passion; a lot of upheaval and a lot of chaos. So whenever everything is chugging along happily on the track of contentment something has to come and derail it so that we have something to talk about; we have something to get excited about or have something to get unhappy about. (Remember Eden and the events preceding the fall of Man?)
These stories are good to listen to on a cold winter night. But when similar stories are prepared and perpetuated at the cost of a real living family  I strongly object to it and have to lash out in frustrated anger ( impractical and non productive!)
As long as the virtual world keeps within its limits and not intrude into the real world then its fine with me. But just like a small fire – it doesn’t burn everything down but it burns your eyes and suffocates you, these virtual media people make me smoulder ineffectively on one hand and make many an innocent smoulder in an artificial fire and drain out both our practical energy and our passionate directions to turn us into in effective denizens of Hades.
To be a “Protestor” is the latest celebrity profession so I protest!

Hits and Misses

“Don’t miss me too much!” said my arrogant teenager a little bent under the weight of her backpack as she wheeled the packed suitcase to the elevator.
After a whirlwind morning of trying to see that she has taken everything; seeing that she had her cup of milk (I must tell you the milk story! but not now, otherwise I will digress as usual!); her breakfast; wearing a jacket; her shoes (Once she had almost gone to school in her flip-flops!); reminding her for the umpteenth time to look after her passport, money, iPad and herself in that order I was too exhausted to give any kind of cheeky repartee at her departure!
There was total silence in the house, unless you call the sound of the waves any kind of abnormal sound, it was quiet. I tottered back to the kitchen to continue with my breakfast preparation when my phone rang and I went helter-skelter to find where it was. At last I found it and there was my “Trying teenager” telling me that she had forgotten her jacket and she was coming back up to get it.
Rush to her room- pick up the jacket lying bunched up on the bed- rush to the front door and reach just in time to hear the ping of the elevator reaching – hand over the jacket to the grinning ape and repeat all the advise I had repeated at least twenty times (This BTW included the jacket-taking one!)
I suddenly realised that I was talking to an empty corridor as madam had disappeared! This time I took my time walking back to the breakfast table. I had a leisurely one discussing whether she will reach the airport with all her possessions! Anyway when I bid goodbye to Junu, I reminded him to ask Imen whether Mickey had taken her suitcase or not from the boot- just to be safe!
Now there was total silence. It was cold so I shut all the doors. I could see the noise of the sea but not hear it. As is my routine I went to her room to pick up the stuff she strews around her room. (Thank God it’s now only her room; it took me more than five years to train her to limit her destruction to her room!). Everything was normal- her bedclothes were messed up- the second bed was dumped with all her school books (anybody would think that she was the most studious child in the world) – the bath towel was draped over her study chair; (just for your information – the balcony is just a step away with a drying stand). All the drawers of the chest of drawers were opened to a different degree, a mouse could play jump and balance on them! The cupboard door had to be open – it’s like a matter of prestige for her not to shut the door!
The only things missing were -the three chargers were not lying in various stages of undress (The phone, camera and i-pad). Normally one is partly draped on the bedpost; one is absolutely on the floor; the last one will be out of the head point and half on the dressing table! I felt a lump form in my throat as I went round picking up and tidying the room before the maid turned up. Soon, very soon I will not have to do any of this and will I be jumping with joy when this happens is a debatable question.
Well the day wore on and I talked with her on the phone. Had she reached the airport on time? Did she get her visa? And had she paid the ticket amount at the school office? I had given her the money two days ago but she has to do everything at the last moment! At last she was airborne with all her possessions around her. But can a mum ever relax when her fledgling is trying out her wings? I don’t know about others but I couldn’t, I read, I played I even made kebabs to keep myself occupied but till she landed and gave me a call I was not able to breathe freely.
Then my almost -adult chick messaged to me that Mickey had phoned her and how proud she was of her – travelling on her own, dealing with passport, visa and immigration formalities on her own! Today I feel proud of both my chicks who I am sure and confident will go on to being independent young ladies and do whatever they do to the best of their abilities.
But I will still worry about Mickey’s “unawareness” of the world and Chiqui’s “over-awareness” of the world….
I shall always miss them when they are not around and nag them when they are…

The Potato Question

It was a dusty and windy day. I came out for a breath of fresh sea air and went through the exercise of taking the lift to the first floor- waiting for the 30 seconds that it takes to reach it and then thanked the lift man as I walked out. I inhaled deeply trying to smell the “wonderful perfume” which Mickey says she always gets to smell when she walks the corridor to the entrance but failed as usual! Not for nothing am I a Taurus (I never give up!).
I took the side door out and stood enveloped by greenery on one side and the glass fronted building of our apartment on the other and gazed at the turbulent sea before me. I took gulps of fresh air and withstood the ferocity of the wind blowing through this man made “Corridor” and closed my eyes in pure pleasure. The biting cold and the viciousness of the wind almost took my breath away. I stood there in bliss. Suddenly something hit my bare feet and I looked down with an “Ow!” and what did I see?
A dusty elongated potato was lying near my feet. I bent down to pick it up and felt a certain amount of dampness. I was stunned to see  that the potato had tears in his eyes! It was very natural that I ask him,”What happened?” and it was equally natural that he told me his story…
He had just recently shifted into a new apartment and till a couple of days ago had been happy making new friends who lived in the basket. He suddenly noticed that every day some of his newly made friends would disappear and never come back. He was worried and asked “Someone” why this was so. Someone or (was it “Anyone”?) replied that they were taken to be cut into fingers and fried and stuffed into a dark tunnel. Multitude of voiced described the horrors that they would face as they traveled through this tunnel but no one knew the reason or the necessity of this whole ritual.
That day, my potato could not rest. He dodged and avoided the fingers that groped the basket but he knew that one day would come when he would be the “chosen” one. He decided to run away. He somehow rolled out of the basket and out of the house. Through the process of trial and error he managed to reach my feet. He wanted answers and help from me!
I felt like God with a devotee at my feet. With my limited wisdom I tried to calm him down. I told him that each of us are born with some reason- that  there is a reason for our existence and maybe the reason for potatoes existence was to be cut into fingers. This did not satisfy him. After all he was a post-revolution Egyptian Potato!
 He questioned me, “Why can’t I change my destiny?”
“Well” I replied, “it’s either that or you rot!”
He looked so downcast and sad at this statement that I tried to make it sound better,
“You have a choice, you know”
“What choice is there in my blighted life?”
“Either you make someone happy by being fried (I know it pains!) Or you make no one happy by rotting and stinking”
This made him thoughtful and he looked confused and sad.
“Give me some time” he said
“Sure” I said, quite confident that he would see my way and accept his fate. I put him carefully hidden amongst the shrubs in the garden and went back home.
As I walked back,  I was oblivious to all the beauty around me as the questions put up before me led to more questions and my mind echoed with them. I was not satisfied with my answers anymore. I knew that my wisdom was limited and I needed to dig deep to find a permanent solution. Tired and a little despondent I wracked my brain for the next two hours. I even discussed this with Mickey and Junu. One thought I was just telling her a story and the other (as usual) tried to look at it seriously and gave me a variety of solutions (thinking off the cuff) suddenly Lo and behold ( fairy tale language!) the answer had always been staring at my face (“the answer my friend is blowing in the wind…..)
Now when I meet my potato I will have an answer that will satisfy him and me too. I will dig him a small pit and cover him with warm earth and let him germinate and produce a plant and let life go forward. I believe this is the clichéd “win-win” situation.
But then he might object! I will be imprisoning him within the earth…. what do you say?

Masking Emotions….but Living Anyway…..


Some time back I had mentioned that we are never the same person at all times. Time and tide are ruthless and they carve and cut and grind us, to mould us into a shape which they think fits into the universe. The innocence and faith of a ten year old is not there when you are twenty five. So at ten, you are one individual and another at twenty five; for that matter I am not the same person I was a moment ago! So then what is the reason for my existence? Is it that I am just a cog in the huge universal machinery? Am I just a cold piece of iron cast to fulfill the needs of time? Do I have my use and then be thrown away like a used plastic bag?
I am confusing my metaphors here! I am strong as iron and resilient as plastic and like both, my feelings are not to be taken into account! Feelings, emotions and sensitivity are supposedly “human” weaknesses, and I have no right to indulge in them.
At what age was it that I learnt that it is not “nice” to cry in public or to show any kind of weakness? I don’t remember; it was supposedly a sissy behaviour. Having studied a part of my life in missionary schools I was taught all about the British “stiff upper lip” and till date I hate to express my pain in public (this includes my family!) 
Running away from pain has become a habit with me. Like the ostrich I bury my head in the sand, very sure that if I ignore something it will go away! Alas! This does works once in a while but most of the time the problem confronts me head on like Medusa’s snakes! The more you cut them the stronger and more potent they grow.
It was raining heavily, the little sparrow, bedraggled, shivered on the balcony. It was a girl sparrow (Did not have the black bib) and she chirped in utter misery; must have been hungry and cold. I wondered how to help it and threw a few crumbs of food, but she looked at it suspiciously and flew away… the rain was very heavy she came back again sidling on the banister and looked longingly at the food… I watched fascinated… she was joined by another sparrow (a boy- had a bib you see!) and slowly both hopped down unto the dry balcony and pecked at the crumbs; then they huddles together in a dry corner …hopefully safe…In times of darkness you need someone to hold the candle.
Once at a party, I was asked “what would you grab if your house was on fire?” and I instantly without thinking said “nothing”. When I analyze this response now, I realize that even then I knew that material things have no value, they are like the iron and the plastic- they have their use but they have to be trashed at some point in time! They can also be replaced pretty easily….
The cold fingers of the mist swamped my senses and I shivered both out of fear and cold. The black rolling clouds came forward ushered by the thunder and lightning. The wonderful valley below me was obscured from my vision in seconds. Is it possible that a safe comfortable life be shattered in seconds without warning?
Two young people- too impatient to wait for the light to change ran across the high speed traffic and in seconds were no more. What a waste of youth, energy and life! Yet life without risk is so sedate and boring! Man is a gambler but an intelligent gambler and so he rules; the day he crosses the road a second early he will be no more. But what about safe players like me? Well! We may continue to exist but it will be a vegetable existence-eat-sleep-eat!
Most of us muddle our way through life. We do as circumstances dictate us to. It’s only the lucky few that write their own destinies. But the truth is we are all dispensable and the small footprints that we leave behind will soon be erased by the timeless sea!   
The curving road below me shows a stream of red lights on one side and a stream of white lights on the other side… the red going away and the white coming towards me – continuous and unreeling. White for peace and red for danger (or is it anger?); is this a signal telling me that nothing lasts forever and I can trash my danger and buy myself some peace?

Hermetically Sealed?


Once upon a time lived a young hermit; His whole day was spent on contemplating the greatness of God. He appreciated each part of the day as we would appreciate a framed painting; he smelt the fragrance of nature at different times of the day and wallowed in it; he tasted the fruits and savoured each taste –salt, sour, sweet et al; he heard the sound of the gurgling stream, the song of the birds, the cacophony of the hawks and the crows, the rustling of the leaves, the patter of the raindrops , the whoosh of the wind….; he touched the velvet softness of the new grass, the rough scales  of the tree bark, the downy feathers of the birds  and the furs of animals. 
He was happy or so he thought… After years of spending such a wonderful life he thought he would venture out into the world and answer the many questions that always troubled his mind. He always saw many creatures of the same kind but never saw any of his kind and this disturbed him. He did know that God made him but why did he leave him on this lovely place? He wondered whether his reason for existence was purely to enjoy or did it have some other hidden quest?  He always noticed that everyone was busy eating, searching for food looking after their off- springs, protecting their home but he did none of these. His life was pure blissful joy. No responsibilities or onus rested on him!
He began his quest for knowledge with a minimum of baggage. He had a stout stick and the clothes he wore and a sickle to cut any fruits for his food. He walked for many days and reached a mountain pass. He looked down at the valley below and took deep breaths of the beautiful panorama spread below him. He saw huts and houses and well manicured fields and smoke spires coming from the roof tops of the huts. The sun was setting and the whole valley was bathed in its golden glow. He felt a sense of infinite happiness suffusing his soul and he almost ran down to this lovely place.
He was hungry as he entered the limits of the little village. He saw lovely ripe fruits hanging on the trees and he reached up and plucked the fruit and bit into it. The owner of the orchard came running out and gave him a whack and jabbered at him. He was stunned! He did not understand what was it that confronted him; here was a creature of his kind yet he behaved like he did not know him. He gestured telling him in his own tongue that he was hungry and needed the fruit. This made the owner furious and he dragged him to the centre of the village. 
I don’t think I need to tell you what ensued! The process of law and justice went into full swing and the poor man was thrown into a locked cell. The trauma and pain and anguish the man went through were unimaginable. He who did not know what pain was- was being subjected to it with the whole gamut of negative emotions. He felt the pain as a baby does when he cuts his first tooth!
Did he venture further into the new world? Did he go on in spite of all the pain? Did he find what he had set out to? Are a set of questions that I leave you to answer. If you were him what would you have done? 
Knowledge, any kind of it always brings pain. That’s the rule of nature. Because knowledge brings awareness and awareness is the acceptance of something which is alien to us at that moment.  It’s like falling down because we did not walk properly or like burning our finger because we did not know that fire burns.
Should we then stick to our own Utopia and be happy and satisfied with what we have? This is a personal question and each of us has our own personal answers. I have met many people in the course of my vagrant life who have felt sorry for me-as I have not stayed in the place that I was born in. They seem so happy and settled that I have been envious of them (Especially when I was a child). 
My position is almost an antithesis of the hermit. I have always lived surrounded by knowledge and the itch that it brings along with it! But I have my own similarities with him too. I have been satisfied and content with my desire for knowledge not for personal gain but for its sake alone.
I am at a point in my life where I have left time far behind and the only thing in front is a jumble of roads all seemingly impassable – yet I must battle through them. The question is which of the thorny roads I must cut through to reach my goal of Moksha! Is my fate as imprisoned as that of the hermit in the story or shall I or can I let a few bacteria enter into my cosmos?

Monkey Capers!

Yikes! I shut the bedroom door with a bang. I had effectively locked myself and my two year old daughter inside the guest bedroom. We were on the fourth floor of the apartment and the only way out was through the window which was unfortunately barred! Remember there were no cell phones those days. To access the phone for help I needed to go to the living room….. There were two beds in the room and my sewing machine. I knew it was a matter of minutes before the baby would be hungry and I didn’t even have a bar of chocolate with me. If I hollered for help no one would hear me, so I waited….
Both of us were terrified, I because I knew what was there and Chiqui because she didn’t know what was there! We could hear the pots and pans being thrown down and cupboards being opened and shut- I shuddered … Chiqui was so terrified that she forgot to be hungry! After what seemed like eons (actually it was a mere ten minutes!) there was silence; I waited for another five looooong minutes before I cautiously opened the door  and peered out – the cushions of the sofa were strewn all over the carpet and the balcony door was open. I carried Chiqui with me hoping to escape from the main door which was wide open too and tiptoed out, but the silence followed me.
I found the biscuit packet intact, gave it to the baby, put her in our bedroom (This had been untouched) and latched it. Brave me! Then I went creeping towards the kitchen- what a mess! I looked everywhere and realised that the miscreant had disappeared. Like shutting the stable doors after the horses had bolted, I swiftly rushed around and closed all the balcony doors and my main door too and released Chiqui from the bedroom!
The little devil had overturned the flour from its bin; scattered the sugar all over the floor; all the masala bottles had either been smashed or strewn all over! The kitchen floor was resplendent with all hues red, yellow, white, brown and what not! The fellow had opened the refrigerator and eaten all the eggs neatly but had spread the shells very aesthetically. I was in tears that day and my poor baby couldn’t understand what the problem was – for her it was a lovely mess!
My parents had told me that when I was few months old I had been put on the seat of the open jeep for a moment, outside a temple. I believe a monkey came from somewhere and was in the process of carrying me off when my father saw this and bribed the monkey to give me back in exchange of a few bananas (See my worth!).
Whenever I have gone to the zoos, temples or tourist spots they have troubled me. Either they run at me with teeth bared or they want whatever I am eating or they just give me funny looks! I remember one of them stole my bottle of Coke and drank it (I was very thirsty but too scared to do anything!)
I have numerous stories of the atrocities they have committed on me! But there have been exceptions….
In college I had a friend who had this habit of going to the Hanuman temple in Delhi every Tuesday and Saturday. She was in a different college; I was in the north campus and she was in the south campus, so we used to meet at this temple which was right in the center of Delhi, near Connaught Place. I followed her around mimicking whatever rituals she performed. Like all Hanuman temples this one was filled with monkeys. The strangest thing was they never troubled me, they did ignore me but they never came near me. 
After this small dedication to the Monkey God for a period of five years my ape friends have left me alone. But a big “but” is whenever the God wants me to visit him, he send his missionaries to remind me that it’s high time I visit him again. I make it a point to do so. I visit him whenever I go to any temple. I even have a small idol of him at home. He is at peace and so am I!
By the way I love bananas!

Affaire de Heart

Hi Bloggy!  it’s been a long while that I have spoken to you. I have been kind of busy with this and that! Being disciplined is a difficult task and when I get a chance, like the river, I meander in the easiest path possible…

I had been to visit my beloved mountains; I was resuming my affaire de heart after quite a long gap. I have always had a long distance relationship – I go for holidays to the mountains but I live either in the plains or near the sea! I have talked of this before but would like to reiterate that going up, literally gives me a kind of high which no wine or rum can! 
Anyone who knows me should consciously or unconsciously realise that I am the happiest when I am alone with and in the mountains. Have you just tried to walk on the roads in the mountains with the clouds swarming around you like an affectionate kitten? Have you felt the clean, clear breeze wrapping you in its freshness? Have you tried to just sit down on a bench overlooking a cliff and breathing in all that beauty spread before you?
As I grow older and I know I have a limited time before me I want to cram myself with all the knowledge possible( I wish I had done this in school!) I want to know and question, to know history, philosophy and to some extent science. I know my limitations though – I can never understand finance (I do know how to spend money!) So my trip gave a lot of insight into all these subjects but when I reflect on the holiday, the best part was when I stood on the cliff savouring the scenes unfolding- the clouds raced below me giving me glimpses of a real world in an unreal setting.
Photographs are wonderful catalysts to jogging ones memory but it can never capture those emotions which you felt at that moment. Something is better than nothing, one does appreciate the snaps years later but for me it’s like a body without a soul! I depend on my fading memories!
Human beings are unique. We are all the same physically and we have survived all these years due to the fact that we adapt to nature (sometimes change nature to suit us).
I wonder how people can live on pasta and pizza. Once I used to love these but now I appreciate the variety in Indian food. Of course my diet is restricted in the western countries as I do not eat beef or pork. By the time we came back to al Qahira we headed straight to an Indian restaurant!
 I must tell you that I experience religion in a different way. Being Indian I am unconsciously secular. I am not an atheist but I am not an active follower of my religion either. By chance I am in a country where religion is an important part of the daily life and by chance I had the opportunity to visit the most important city for Catholics.
 I have this habit of closing my eyes and searching to be one with the maker in all the temples I visit and I have always found that this oneness is possible in lesser known temples. I had no expectations when I visited the Vatican, I knew it would be a city with beautiful building with priceless works of art but I had no expectations.
We went with Valentina like school children gathering knowledge as if we needed to face an exam on our return! We moved from one beautiful interior to another gazing with awe at the works of the great artists. Then of course the magnificence of the St. Peter’s basilica took my breath away and I looked at the alters ready to take me in but being pre-judgemental I never even tried to find my maker here and I think I missed out. 
It was much later in a little known church in Sienna, amidst all the people, that I saw the light and I know that here is what I was seeking. The Universe had come to meet me here as it had in a number of places and I felt the calm and the peace that I am constantly searching for.
I have stated that I am not a religious person and so I do not name my God according to a particular religion. For me the consciousness that we exist as body less entities is what my religion and Universe is all about. Like a drug addict, every once in a while I need to inject myself with similar experiences to keep myself going! Sometimes I get such horrendous withdrawal symptoms that I dig myself a pit where I wallow till I get my ‘fix’.

I have got my ‘dose ‘for the time being and my soul soars with the confidence and strength of my beliefs and all is all right with my world. Amidst the chaos of the whole world- riots, markets collapsing, terrorists- I am still able to smile and look down at the waves crashing against the rocks, knowing that soon all shall be well…

House of Cards


The escalators worked continuously. So many pairs of feet standing, moving and impatiently tapping; Technology is God! Here, there are a million people tramping up and down the metallic moving staircase and no one is tired- imagine going up four floors and down again in minutes and none the worse for it!
Thousands of miles away people all over the world glued to their respective receptors- the space shuttle blasts off- ten, nine, eight…..; technology is almighty.
Millions of packages wrapped faultlessly and effortlessly in minutes; Science is supreme.
Small incisions into the tiny body removing extras, repairing – micro surgery; Science is the life giver!
What am I doing here? Writing an essay on the glory of science?
Not exactly, only trying not to take things for granted. Remember the Japan Quake/ Tsunami not too  far back in the past, the volcano in Iceland spewing so much smoke that the whole of Europe was affected and who can forget the fury of the monsoon in India…  the various cyclones and tornadoes (Though I feel its mean to name them after girls- so sexist!)
The Human race is great (The twenty first century is the century of the egoist) everywhere you turn you see the brilliance of mankind and if you don’t see it then it’s drummed through your head via the media!
The sky darkened into a lovely steel gray colour; the wind picked up speed ; the date palms swayed dangerously; people picked up their collars and bent their head battling the wind, all feet toward home; the waves crashed on the concrete path (man -made) and the rain started pelting down in sheets and nothing was visible. The wind moaned, almost a sound of the dirge permeated the sub conscious and the electricity went off! –running here and there storing water (in case the supply is not restored and there is no water!) checking for match box and candles and waiting…..  Thank God for gas at least there was fire to make tea! Or should I say Thank Man!  Then the hail began and the desire to go out in the rain was great but the old and the wise never give in to childish impulses! 

Slowly after nature had vented her fury and the electricity supply was resumed and the gifts of man came back in full force. The Television camera swept over the Corniche to show the devastated concrete pathways – tons of concrete swept away and broken and overturned with effortless ease! It must have taken months to build that – building the blocks; transporting them here and then setting them to build the path and in seconds nothing… like a Hindi poem says “Pani ke bulbule” (bubbles of water).

Man has tamed and used the furies of nature but once in a while she rebels and like a cornered animal springs back and attacks! What an attack it is – the tamer is scratched and bloodied, wounded and scarred and sometimes annihilated and only time can heal the blemishes. 

Only when you stand alone on a rocky crag looking and listening to the sea or alone on top of a mountain and feel  the force of the wind do you realize what a puny thing Man is and yet… Yet this has not stopped us from trying to conquer Nature and  the fear of the unknown. Who knows maybe in the future (We are only about 5000 years old- still quite young!) we can tame this shrew and use her potentials to our betterment?

Science has helped us a lot but like all medicines it has its side effects. The day we find a medicine which is effective yet affect-less will we win this battle with nature, will we be able to coexist in peace and find the perfect equation of cause and effect. 

While this epic battle goes on for eons, it doesn’t help that we have small snakes in our Eden who use this fledgling power of science to destroy the beginnings of a great civilizations and ape Nature’s fury to bring down years of toil and hard work for their personal gains. Man has come this far because of working together. No project can be successful without the help of others- be it marriage or building a house or a factory! But the Snake is selfish it lives for itself and thus the years of strategy and planning go down like a house of cards with a small breeze of terrorism and a group of people are happy- not knowing that they are cutting off their nose to spite their own face!

We have been taught from childhood that every aspect of life has a good and bad side; history has made this very clear to us. The greatest invention will be when something is created which is completely positive and the yin and the yang merge and  the  beam of the balance of life is always in a straight line and then, only then will my house of cards stand up to the storms of the Universe.